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If you are burning the candle at both ends, here are some solutions to help you focus more on your relationship with one another.

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A Playful Gesture?

Thursday June 20, 2013
Not only for herself, but also for all the women who are influenced by Nigella Lawson, I hope that Nigella doesn't ignore the warning signs in her marriage after the throat grabbing incident and investigation. Even though Charles Saatchi initially claimed it was just a playful "tiff," both he and Nigella are fortunate that his anger didn't get worse.

Nigella and her two children apparently did leave their home. Whether it is a permanent move or temporary one is still unknown.

Heather Harvey: "This is not a 'row', it is not a 'tiff', it is an incidence of domestic violence. There is an unfortunate myth that domestic violence only happens to a certain type of person, that it happens in dysfunctional families where people have been drinking. But it happens in every social class, and in every profession. It is shocking that this happened in a public place, and yet no one intervened. This is not acceptable behaviour."
Source: Alexandra Topping, Ben Quinn. "Nigella Lawson assault: Charles Saatchi accepts police caution." Guardian.co.uk. 6/18/2013.

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Summer Fun for Your Marriage

Saturday June 15, 2013
According to our weather, summer is here! Here are some things you can do this summer that are both healthy and fun for your marriage relationship.

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Full Article: Ideas for Summer Fun Together

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Another Divorce for Rupert Murdoch

Thursday June 13, 2013
There are successful May-December marriages, but the Rupert-Deng marriage won't be one of them. It was confirmed today by Rupert's company that the couple filed divorce papers in New York.

Wendi Deng was called a "trophy wife" and a "tiger wife". Now she will be another one of Rupert Murdoch's ex-wives. Wendi's marriage to her first husband Jake Cherry lasted only 2 years and seven months. Jake was 30 years older than Wendi.

Rupert and Wendi began their relationship while he was still married to his second wife (1967-1999) Anna Maria Torv. His first marriage (1956-1967) to Patricia Booker also ended in divorce.

Today, Compliment Your Spouse!

Tuesday June 11, 2013
Our poll about complimenting your spouse shows what we think is too large a percentage of folks don't remember when they last complimented their spouse!

What??? How can a marriage survive without kindness and sincere compliments? If you want to cut down on negativity in your marriage, compliment your spouse on a daily basis. And we mean honest compliments about who your spouse is as a person -- not manipulative flattery or only focusing on what your spouse accomplishes.

Hara Estroff Marano: "Compliments are little gifts of love. They are not asked for or demanded. They tell a person they are worthy of notice. They are powerful gifts. But compliments work only if they are sincere reflections of what we think and if they are given freely and not coerced. Compliments backfire if they are not genuine. And faux flattery is usually highly transparent. A false compliment makes the speaker untrustworthy; it raises suspicions about motives. And that can undermine a whole relationship."
Source: Hara Estroff Marano. "The Art of the Compliment: Everyone needs to know how to give and receive compliments." PsychologyToday.com. 3/02/2004.

You also need to receive compliments from your spouse with a smile and true acceptance. A consequence of dismissing a compliment is hurting your spouse. It's like you said a gift you received is worthless.

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