Monday December 9, 2013
When our children were younger, we read David Elkind's The Hurried Child
(compare prices) and became concerned our kids didn't have enough free time to be able to dream, to play, to look at clouds, to gaze at stars, and to generally enjoy quiet time in their lives.
Then we wondered the same thing about our own marriage. Did we have a hurried marriage without time to dream dreams together, to go on dates with one another, to look at clouds together, to gaze at stars together, to enjoy a full moon with one another, and to generally enjoy quiet time with each other?
As a result, we limited our children's after-school activities and reevaluated our own involvement in church and community organizations.
It is affirming to see that our concerns then are still valid today.
"According to the AAP, “Whereas play protects children's emotional development, a loss of free time in combination with a hurried lifestyle can be a source of stress, anxiety and may even contribute to depression for many children.
“The report reaffirms that the most valuable and useful character traits that will prepare children for success come not from extracurricular or academic commitments, but from a firm grounding in parental love, role modeling and guidance.”
Source: Elizabeth Scott, M.S. "Play Time for Healthy Child Development."
Volunteerism can hurt your marriage. If you and your spouse are finding yourselves with no time for your relationship or your kids, perhaps you are having a problem saying NO. Decide if you are spending too much time as volunteers and read our tips for saying NO.
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Saturday December 7, 2013
I always think of my dad, Ken Goeser, on Pearl Harbor Day
, and of my mom's engagement ring
. Dad had purchased an engagement ring for my mom and had it stashed in his locker aboard the USS Raleigh that terrible day.
The USS Raleigh was one of the first ships attacked at Pearl Harbor on the morning of December 7, 1941. Dad would never talk about his experiences that day, but I did hear about mom's engagement ring sinking with the ship as I was growing up.
On our first visit to Hawaii, one of the first things we did was to go to the Pearl Harbor Memorial. The memorial, and the library there, had quite an emotional impact on me. Bob was sensitive enough to drive around to a portion of Oahu where I could get a better view of where Dad's ship had been docked.
The Salvaged Ring: A Pearl Harbor Story
Friday December 6, 2013
When I heard the sad news about Nelson Mandela
death, I remembered that he mentioned how Graca helped him bloom.
Nelson: "I'm in love with a remarkable lady. I don't regret the reverses and setbacks because late in my life I am blooming like a flower, because of the love and support she has given me."
Source: Anthony Mandela: The Authorized Biography. 2000. pg. 541.
It is such a lovely thought and statement made by a remarkable man. Hopefully Graca and his children can take comfort in knowing that he will be missed by so many throughout the world.
More to Read:
Quotes About Nelson Mandela's Marriages
Marriage of Nelson Mandela and Graca Machel
Nelson Mandela: Husband & Lover
Thursday December 5, 2013
Getting to the truth about the marriage relationship of Santa and Mrs. Claus
is difficult because there are so many stories about this famous couple.
We found several versions of how Santa and Mrs. Claus met and married and a few quotes about their marriage. If you know any more tales about their marriage, let us know!