Nelson: "I'm in love with a remarkable lady. I don't regret the reverses and setbacks because late in my life I am blooming like a flower, because of the love and support she has given me."
Source: Anthony Mandela: The Authorized Biography. 2000. pg. 541.
It is such a lovely thought and statement made by a remarkable man. Hopefully Graca and his children can take comfort in knowing that he will be missed by so many throughout the world.
We found several versions of how Santa and Mrs. Claus met and married and a few quotes about their marriage. If you know any more tales about their marriage, let us know!
While some interfaith couples are against intermingling religious traditions, others believe both faith traditions can be shared. Chrismukkah is one way to celebrate a couple's dual cultural and religious heritages.
Regardless of how you decide to celebrate the holidays, regardless of whether you are an interfaith couple or both belong to the same faith, accept that you each bring important childhood memories and traditions to your marriage and communicate those with honesty and caring. Your support of one another is what is truly important.
Meeri Kim: "Popular belief says that you need to find someone perfectly compatible with you, but he [Clinical psychologist Gregory Kuhlman of Brooklyn College] dismisses this as a harmful fallacy that often leads to an uneasy gut. Every couple will have incompatibilities. What matters is how good they are at managing them."
Source: Meeri Kim. "Psychology study: Wedded bliss and gut feelings sometimes conflict." WashingtonPost.com. 11/28/2013.
It is important to try and discern if your pre-marriage nervous feelings are just normal.
We also recommend that you not put off thinking about and shopping for a gift. for your spouse. Also consider celebrating the The 12 Days of Christmas for Lovers this year! It is an inexpensive way to have fun and show your love.
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If you are celebrating Thanksgiving today, I hope you have a wonderful day. Consider sharing with one another a list of the things you are each most thankful for. And remember the importance of saying thank you to your spouse on a daily basis.
Dr. Terri Orbuch: "How important is it to thank your beloved? Consider this: In my long-term study of marriage and divorce, couples who expressed frequent gratitude to each other were the happiest in their marriages by a significant margin."
Source: Dr. Terri Orbuch. "Improve Your Marriage With One Little Word." HuffingtonPost.com. 11/22/2011.
When I reflect on my life with Bob and read how others show their appreciation for their spouse, I am so very
- ... thankful for our loving, affirming, and supportive nearly 50-year marriage to one another.
- ... thankful for very dear friends who gave so much of themselves to both of us during Bob's final days.
- ... thankful for our tremendous four children.
- ... thankful for our two wonderful daughter-in-laws.
- ... thankful for our sweet four grandchildren.
- ... thankful to still have my delightful mom in my life.
- ... thankful for the many moments of laughter, comfort, tenderness, and support I had from Bob.
- ... thankful for my understanding and helpful friends as I learn to live alone.
- ... thankful that I live in such a beautiful locale.
- ... thankful for the home that Bob put so much of himself into.
- ... thankful for caring and qualified medical professionals in my rural area.
- ... thankful for the Internet which allowed us to work together and from home.
- ... thankful for you, our loyal readers.
- ... and thankful for apple pie!
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Gifts do not have to be elaborate. It is often the simple gifts that are the most memorable. I still cherish the little simple gifts Bob gave me through the years.
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Gary Chapman: "Your relationships will never reach their potential until you learn to apologize."
Source: Gary Chapman, Jennifer Thomas. The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships. Northfield Publishing. 2006. pg. 125.
Hopefully, you want to apologize to your spouse because you want to help ease and eventually end the hurt and pain you caused, because you love your spouse, and because you want to do what you can to insure that your marriage is on solid ground.
Your spouse doesn't need perfection from you. What is needed is being sincere and genuine and keeping your promises.
Whenever you or your spouse says "I don't care", it could be a sign of apathy or uncaring in your marriage. It's also another cop out in taking responsibility or making decisions.
I love the holidays and holiday traditions. Yet there have been times in the past when following one of our favorite traditions just didn't work out.
When our living room and dining room took on the role of our kitchen while it was put back together after the fire a few years ago, we made the decision to not decorate a tree or to haul out all the Christmas decorations. We put out a few special items like our creche, our three-tiered wooden Christmas candle pyramid, and Odie. We decorated a wreath with some of our favorite ornaments.
Deciding on which traditions to celebrate in your marriage is a continual process. As your lives change, so may your traditions that you celebrate on the holidays and during life-cycle celebrations.
Here are tradition suggestions as well as other tips on making traditions meaningful for both you and your spouse.
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