Most links I looked at for ethical cheating or ethical infidelity were in reference to cheating on exams, in chess games, and while playing video games -- but there were some comments about ethical cheating in marriage.
We like this quote:
"Feelings of neglect, loneliness and boredom are common complaints from those unhappy in their relationships. Yet, as painful as it may be, the best way to save a marriage is to work on the intimacy – listening and trying to fulfil each other’s emotional needs rather than seek solace in someone else’s bed."Personally, we don't believe that ethical cheating exists. We don't believe there is a legitimate reason to cheat. Unless a couple has agreed to having an open marriage allowing additional sex partners, we think if a person wants sex with someone else, be honest about it and end the marriage first.
In his book, Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy, psychiatrist Frank Pittman describes how many of his unfaithful patients came from marriages that seriously lacked something else - intimacy. He concluded, "Affairs were thus three times more likely to be the pursuit of a buddy than the pursuit of a better orgasm”.
Source: Graeme J. Davidson, The Dominion Post, "Infidelity: in hot pursuit of a better orgasm or better intimacy?", March 25, 2006.
I asked on our Marriage Forum what folks thought about ethical cheating and whether it was always wrong to cheat no matter what.
What do you think?