Is Your Spouse Sleeping Too Much?
Sunday May 6, 2007
With May as Better Sleep Month, check out this article from the Health Sciences Institute on how too much sleep can be as damaging as too little sleep. Here are some ways to keep lack of sleep or too much sleep from hurting your marriage.
- Decrease using your brain in the evening. Don't use the time right before going to sleep to bring up issues in your marriage.
- If your spouse interrupts your sleep with snoring or tossing and turning or getting up a great deal during the night, consider getting twin beds or sleeping now and then in another room.
- Plan your next day together so you aren't staying awake wondering what needs to get done tomorrow.
- Before going to bed, take a hot bath with soothing fragrances, lights, and/or music.
- The only things you should do in your bed are sleep and sex. No TV or reading. If you like to read before going to bed, sit in a comfy chair in your bedroom for reading.
- Sleeping in a different part of the house now and then may help if you are having trouble sleeping. Make sure you share why you aren't sleeping with your spouse so there are no misunderstandings.
- Keep the lights turned off.
Full Article:
Getting 8 Hours? You may be sleeping TOO much
Related:
More on Sleeping Together
Solving Sleep Problems
Dear Sheri & Bob,
I REALLY want to thank you for your very astute insight and pragmatism. I’ve read a number of your articles, and I have to say, they have been more helpfull than any team of “Mental Health Professionals” could ever portend to be !!! Long story short: After 32 years of marriage, my wife took off with a guy she met in a Party Poker room. (Go figure!!!! LOL ) That was 2 years ago, and continues to this day. Needless to say, it was driving me NUTS!!! Upon reading a few of your articles, I have somewhat started to turn a corner, for which I am most gratefull. TYVM!!!
Bob
P.S. Unfortunately, this post seemed to be the only way to get in touch with you. I just couldn’t find an email link!
I have always read a book in my bed before going to sleep. I can’t picture being denied the right to read a book if I ever acquired a significan’t other/spouse. I am 48 years old so I dont agree that only sex and sleep should occur in one’s bedroom. Most everyone I knows has a television in their bedroom. That isnt as important to me as a book for a half hour before going to bed for good.I just dont agree.Just my two cents.
I normally work 11 hours a day; come the weekend I’M TIRED! I’m begining to get concerned about how much I’m sleeping. Yesterday I didn’t get up til 5:33 P.M. I went to bed before 11:00 P.M. I know this can’t be normal. I went back to bed around 11:15 and didn’t get up until 10:15 and that was with my husband bugging me. Any suggestions or comments????
Thanks,
Sandy
1. For ‘April Blue’ – There’s nothing wrong with reading a book in bed before sleep. It’s actually recommmended.
2. Sleeping too much too often is not only the result of tiredness or some kind of sleep disorder. The main causes for oversleeping are usually emotional. If your spouse sleeps too much, there’s a good chance that they are depressed, or having some kind of emotional probelm.
Rotem. (A-Sleep.com)