Please note: We do believe that there are marriages that should end -- marriages where there is serial cheating, lying, betrayal, or emotional and/or physical abuse.
Quoting Paul Newman: "We're a throw-away society, aren't we? We throw away everything. We never even try to fix things - we throw them away, we destroy things - appliances that break, old buildings because they're old, we throw away relationships that aren't exactly what we thought they'd be, we throw away wives, husbands, marriages."Full Article:
Mary about Newman: "And he was not easy on himself. He admitted to an earlier, failed marriage, to the usual temptations and near crises that have occurred within his present marriage. But his basic premise was that we must stop throwing things away at the first hint of problems. We must honor the commitments, make an attempt to solve the problem, work at the marriage."
Mary: "We were in harm's way when we let the children have all of our attention and left none for each other. We were in harm's way when we allowed our friends and family to pull our loyalties apart. We were in harm's way when our relationship was not examined occasionally and shored up and recommitted. We were in harm's way when we did not speak of love enough and remember it ... This is about marriages worked at, regularly examined and cherished and cared for. In this throw-away society of ours, most of us in long marriages have probably kept our vows; perhaps, in moments of weakness or human fraility, broken some; but we've remembered them all. We didn't throw them or each other or the marriage away."
Hanging On to Marriage: Tough Task in a Throwaway World