Thirty years ago we gave a presentation on couple chemistry. Our focus back then was on how a married couple could create positive chemistry in their marriage by having good communication skills.
Couple chemistry now has a different meaning. Stating life's greatest prize is having "the right mating partner," Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, believes that the rules of attraction are changing.
Fisher lists "four broad biological personality types associated with four specific neurotransmitters and hormones ... Fisher suspects we are all some combination of these four types ..."Fisher has found that explorers go for other explorers, and builders go for other builders. But the high testosterone directors go for the high-estrogen negotiators, and vice versa."
- The Explorer (risk-taking, associated with dopamine)
- The Builder (calm, traditional, associated with serotonin)
- The Director (analytical, tough-minded and decisive, associated with testosterone)
- The Negotiator (emotionally expressive and empathetic, associated with estrogen)
Using Fisher's descriptions, in our relationship, I'm the negotiator/explorer and Bob is the director/builder. It's worked for us.
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That’s an interesting article, about
chemistry between married couples. Often times, sadly the bond of chemistry can get lost along the way, during marriage. I’m not trying to brag or boast, but my husband and I have tremendous chemistry, and it seems like it’s only getting stronger and, better! But if I had to get right down to it I would have to say my husband is the builder and I”m the The Negotiator and that works for us.