These Statements Are Hard to Believe
The first comment is a very depressing view of marriage. The other comments from Mark Sanford reveal he is still in love with his mistress and is defending his cheating. He sure doesn't sound like a man who wants to save his marriage.
1. "For most Christians, at some point in your marriage, if you're married long enough, you do it because that's what we're called to do -- out of obedience instead of out of passion. And I think that's where Mark and Jenny are right now."
Warren "Cubby" Culbertson, the Sanford's spiritual advisor per HuffingtonPost.com.2. "I'm quite certain that there were a handful of instances [with several other women] wherein I crossed lines I shouldn't have crossed as a married man but never crossed the ultimate line."
Gov. Mark Sanford per CBSNews.com.3. "This [relationship with Chapur] was a whole lot more than a simple affair, this was a love story. A forbidden one, a tragic one, but a love story at the end of the day."
Gov. Mark Sanford per NYTimes.com.4. "I owe it too much to my boys and to the last 20 years with Jenny to not try this larger walk of faith [trying to fall back in love with Jenny.]"
Gov. Mark Sanford per NYTimes.com.5. "It was wonderful. Something that I've never been able to put my hands on was there. I remember there was an older couple sitting to our right, and I remember them watching us, in the way that we interacted. They could see a spark, or, I don't know what you'd call it, but there was something there."
Gov. Mark Sanford per CBSNews.com.6. "I will be able to die knowing that I had met my soul mate [Chapur]. But it was one of those things, I knew the cost."
Gov. Mark Sanford per Associated Press.
Hopefully, you agree with us that folks in long lasting marriages are together out of love and passion and not out of a sense of obligation and that Mark Sanford needs to quit defending his affair.
I agree that he should stop defending his affair – today’s news reveals, by Sanford’s own admission, that Sanford has had other affairs. Everyone is tempted but some people try harder not to give in. Mark Sanford gives me the impression that he is used to power and having his way. His arrogance in trying to stay in office (he was highly critical of Clinton and Bob Livingston’s morals) after his hypocrisy shows just how self-centered he is. I am not interested in how his mistress may be a “soul mate” or how much they are in love. He should be ashamed of himself. He is married with four sons. He is in a highly responsible position and should be a model, not a disgrace. WHAT is wrong with Americans that they allow liars and hypocrites to lead them?
After being married for 40 yrs and after doing 20+ years of pre-engagement, premarital and marriage counseling, I’ve heard many stories about “being soulmates.” What I have found to be true is that you don’t “find” your soulmate. Instead, what happens is that after you have been with your partner for many years, you come to know your partner at the deepest levels. You come to know a person at the “soul” level. When two people know and accept each other at this level, you “become soulmates.”
Those comments about an obligation to marriage are completely justified. SO many people take marriage as a temporary phase that ends when the two just don’t get along anymore.
Religiously, marriage is a permanent partnership. It doesn’t always have to be filled with butterflies, a raging sex-life, and profound harmonies. The only God-approved reasons for divorce include infidelity and abuse. Even then, it’s still in the best interest for both parties to work it out.
Today’s society is full of sissies that can’t suck it up and get along for children, for financial reason, or for the simple fact that God doesn’t condone divorce.
Get a clue, America! We are falling apart because of people that marriage is for as long as you are happy!
We’ve heard this too often.
Infidelity is never justified.
He is defending his affair, how good he felt about it and how good he felt about himself.
But the so-called “love story/soul-mate/wonderful relationship” he experienced was only a fleeting feeling.
Love is a decision.