While there is a lot of talk in the news about how the institution of marriage is under attack, we think the real sabotage to marriages comes from within when a spouse says one thing and does another, breaks promises, criticizes and undermines the other, is forgetful on purpose, etc.
I saw a couple in the grocery store today and couldn't believe the way she was talking to him -- so many put downs and insults. That type of sabotage can kill a marriage.
It's not easy, but you can try to save your marriage from sabotage by recognizing the sabotage and not making excuses for your spouse's negative behavior.
Be honest and tell your spouse that the sabotage needs to stop. If it doesn't, then seek professional marriage counseling.