Surprising Results
Monday November 16, 2009
The results of two of our more popular polls, "Are You Happily Married?" and "Would You Marry Your Spouse Again?", continue to surprise us.
Although we believe that marriage is not and can not be the primary source of your happiness, we are surprised to see so many negative responses to the questions. Do you think it is because more of our readers are in unhappy marriages than in happy marriages?
That is disheartening, but unfortunately it seems that a lot of the folks who seek out marriage information (such as via an internet search) do so only after problems develop in their relationship. That could skew the results for polls of these types. Hopefully, there are more happy marriages out there than that!
I strongly encourage people to be proactive in improving/supporting their marriages by reading helpful, positive information like that you share here (and on my own blog site). With some effort, extraordinary marriages are certainly possible!
I think it depends. I sought out your site right after my marriage began. I was determine to be the best wife I could (and still try to be).
However over time my marriage has had its ups and downs and depending on when I come across the polls my answer will be vary depending on the current state of things.
The would you marry your spouse again poll resulted the way I thought it would. I’m not surprised because no matter how much you think you know someone, living with them is totally different.
Also, happiness is relative. Most people think a happy marriage is an easy one with no problems. That could be why those results fair the way they do.
Marriage is tough. There are always things that come up, and cause us to look and question whether our relationship could be better. I think the state of relationships on the whole (divorce rate at or about 50%) has caused a certain amount of pessimism. It’s as though people go into marriage with the idea that there’s an ‘out’, if they need it. There is such a sense of instant gratification, and lack of ’stick-to-it-tiveness’. Recently, a friend shared a different take on a commonly used quote, “The grass is always greener on the other side…because there’s so much ‘crap’ to fertilize…. True! I have a good marriage, but even I find myself thinking negatively sometimes…
I think the only reason is people seeking help after they have issues….like I also began looking thru ur site only after i started having problems…..
I don’t know why is this happening…becoz of my own troubles or something else…even I am coming through so many couples who are unhappy….almost everyone is on with problems which don’t seem to go away……