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Top Three Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life in Your Marriage

By January 15, 2010

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Although modern medicine and drug companies continually look for solutions for sexual problems, if you are looking for quick fixes to improve your marital sex life, exercise could help.

Reading Forbes.com's article, How to Spice Up Your Sex Life, we were surprised at how many methods have not been proved, have not been approved, or that are actually harmful.

According to Forbes.com, "... nearly one in five men in the U.S. suffer from erectile dysfunction, according to a recent study in the American Journal of Medicine. Some researchers have estimated that as many as 40% of U.S. women have low libido or inability to reach orgasm."

If your sexual intimacy in your marriage is lacking, don't ignore the situation. Talk about it with your spouse. It appears that three readily available ways to spice up your sex life are:

  • Get regular exercise. One way you can get exercise and to improve your communication with one another is to walk together.
  • See your physician. If your spouse doesn't want to see a doctor, here's what to do and what not to do.
  • Make an appointment to get counseling from a sex therapist.

Not dealing with sexual issues in your marriage will only make them worse. Don't avoid talking with each other about your feelings and concerns.

January 15, 2010 at 6:26 pm
(1) Will C Jensen says:

I agree that sexual intimacy is a vital part of a functional marriage. I am happy to see that first in your list of fixes has to do with exercise. Not only is lack of fitness a major reason for sexual problems but is also a major contributor to early death. If you have erectile problems there is a good chance you heart problems as well.

January 27, 2010 at 11:01 am
(2) Fancy Dress says:

With all the responsibilities that come with marriage, it is indeed very difficult for couples keep the spice in their relationship, even if they are perfectly “functional.” After all its not easy to keep one’s sex life lively when there are so many other things that demand constant attention: work, kids, housework, finances, and so on.

However, with a little effort, couples can rekindle the flame. You are right: exercise and (I might add) good nutrition are paramount. But in order to bring variety to the bedroom, all that is needed is a little bit of creativity, some erotic videos or reading material and perhaps a fancy dress to further spice things up. Of course it may not work for everyone but even most sex therapists endorse role-playing and term it as “gateway to one’s fantasies.”

February 10, 2010 at 10:11 am
(3) Jenn says:

I definitely agree that those can help but I think one of the biggest pieces to the puzzle is that YOU need to be happy with yourself and not wait for someone else to make you happy. I was one of those people about a year ago but I took steps to fix things on my end and find my inner happiness and learn how to make myself happy first. If you’re not able to do this, then how can you make someone else happy right? I work with a great life coach, Sherri Nickols of unleashyourself.com and she has really helped me turn things around. One of her fun teleseminars that I found to be very helpful was How to Find and Own Your Playful Sexy Self. If anyone is looking to rekindle their passion and spice up their relationships you should definitely check it out. She offers the course on a monthly basis.

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