"In relationships with potential for durable longevity, each individual is willing to make the relationship a priority, giving it time, energy, and sustenance. As couples age together, the traits inherent in true friendship and close companionship take on greater significance. The partners constantly rechoose each other and feed positive energy to the relationship. They have each other's back. They look out for each other. In healthy relationships, both partners feel appreciated ..."
Source: Stephen J. Johnson, Ph.D. "What Your Marriage Needs to Survive." GoodMenProject.com. 2/8/2011.
Johnson's article also lists six characteristics of close couples.
- Physical attraction.
- Want to, not Have to relationship.
- Share "fundamental values, beliefs, interests, and goals."
- Know how to fight fair.
- Presence of laughter and playfulness.
- Can and do support one another's "activities, interests, and careers."
The characteristics are similar to what our readers have selected as the top ten essential qualities for a long lasting marriage.