Forgiveness — Not Revenge

We've mentioned before both the importance of forgiveness in your marriage and the downside of being unforgiving.

In her article "How To Forgive In 3 Steps", Judith Orloff, M.D. emphasizes "the importance of forgiveness and why revenge doesn't work." We recommend that you read what she has to say.

"... the best revenge is your success, happiness and the triumph of not giving vindictive people any dominion over your peace of mind ... Forgiveness is a paradigm-shifting solution for transforming anger. It liberates you from the trap of endless revenge so that you can experience more joy and connection. Forgiveness does more for you than anyone else because it liberates you from negativity and lets you move forward. Forgiving might not make anger totally dissolve, but it will give you the freedom of knowing you are so much more."
Source: Judith Orloff. "How To Forgive in 3 Steps." HuffingtonPost.com. 9/08/2011.

All of us make mistakes. Being able to admit responsibility, to apologize, and to ask for forgiveness and the ability to forgive your spouse are tremendously important to your health and the health of your marriage.