We so agree with Melissa Lafsky about her views on premarital counseling. The uncomfortable questions need to be asked and answered. Knowing how to have the "messy" difficult talks is so important.
"Two words: Premarital counseling. It is perhaps the most vital thing you can do before marching down the aisle. It doesn't matter if your love is so all-powerful it can superglue glaciers, you need to talk about the changes that are about to envelop your day-to-day lives. As a couple, you must sit down in a room not filled with cakes and hors d'oeuvres samplers and ask the squirmy, uncomfortable questions that no one ever really wants to ask ... And how can we set ourselves up with the ability to keep discussing these things in the future? Because they will come up ... Messy conversations are what you are signing up for, and what you will bump up against regularly for the remainder of your lives together. They are the gateway to a fulfilling and joyous relationship."
Source: Melissa Lafsky. "The 8 Truths About Weddings (That No One Ever Tells You)" HuffingtonPost.com. 7/14/2011.
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