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Recognize Sabotage in Your Marriage

By October 5, 2012

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We received an email from a wife who couldn't understand why her husband was sabotaging her attempts to lose weight. He fussed considerably about the healthy meals she served, brought home tempting desserts, and complained when she would leave to go for a walk.

Marriages are at risk when one spouse is ambitious, successful, talented, popular, motivated, etc. and the other spouse takes a perceived backseat, is jealous, or has low self-esteem. The threatened or intimidated spouse may find ways to sabotage the relationship.

You have to recognize the sabotage before anything can be done about it. Some spouses may say one thing and do another, be conveniently forgetful, or show selective incompetence. Learn more about the reasons why a spouse may sabotage a marriage and ways that sabotage may play out in a marriage.

October 5, 2012 at 5:14 am
(1) Sean says:

I had that same problem when my ex-wife and I lived together. Any idea that I came up with was never good enough to see the light of day and when I tried to do anything positive, it was met with insult and criticism. When I started my degree she did everything to prevent me from completing assignments, even though encouraged her to complete hers some years before and put off doing mine so she would have my support. It is indeed sad that she has such a low self esteem.

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