Here are hints to make your daily dialogue more successful.
- Daily dialogue is great, but don't stop all together just because you miss some days.
- Be flexible as to when you will dialogue. You don't have to do it the exact same time each day.
- Remind yourself that you are only spending 20 minutes a day doing this. Ten minutes for writing and ten minutes talking to one another.
- Have a supply of questions readily available.
- Don't ask why your partner wrote or said something. This is a time for listening.
- If you are apart, utilize email, a chat room, or write daily, then read them all when you are back together and have one discussion about them.
- Focus on your feelings rather than your thoughts.
- Don't try to change your spouse through dialogue.
- Remember to separate when you write if you are writing at the same time.
- Don't go over the ten minutes writing and ten minutes talking.
