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How To Handle a Crisis Together


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Keith and Connie Hinze look at where he worked before Hurricane Ike destroyed the building in Galveston, Texas on September 15, 2008.

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Every marriage will go through times of crisis. Some marriages will be strengthened by a crisis, others will be destroyed.

Here's help in avoiding having your marriage relationship hurt by loss and devastation.

Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Varies

Here's How:

  1. Have a plan for such times... eat what ever is left in the freezer instead of planning a meal, let voice mail take your calls, ask for help from family and friends.

  2. Don't blame one another for the situation.

  3. When possible watch a funny movie together. Laugh a little.

  4. Hug one another, hold one another, snuggle or have sex.

  5. Don't worry about keeping the house or current residence super clean. Lower your expectations of one another a bit.

  6. Remember your commitment to one another.

  7. Compliment one another.

  8. Find something positive in each day.

  9. Remind yourselves that this crisis isn't going to last forever.

  10. Ask for help from family and friends. Or find a support group.

  11. If you are dealing with grief, accept that you must each grieve on your own schedule.

  12. Don't keep your feelings bottled in. Share what is going on with your spouse.

  13. Take it one day at a time.

  14. Lower your stress level by exercising, eating healthy foods, drinking water, having some fun, and getting enough sleep.

  15. Be patient. It takes time to overcome the trauma of a crisis.


  1. Although they can take a toll, traumatic events do NOT have to mean the end of your marriage.

  2. Be realistic about what you can do and can't do in the midst of your crisis situation.

What You Need

  • Commitment
  • Understanding
  • Sense of Humor
  • Communication Skills
  • Honesty
  • Patience
  • Being Realistic

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