Every marriage will go through times of crisis. Some marriages will be strengthened by a crisis, others will be destroyed.
Here's help in avoiding having your marriage relationship hurt by loss and devastation.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Varies
Here's How:
- Have a plan for such times... eat what ever is left in the freezer instead of planning a meal, let voice mail take your calls, ask for help from family and friends.
- Don't blame one another for the situation.
- When possible watch a funny movie together. Laugh a little.
- Hug one another, hold one another, snuggle or have sex.
- Don't worry about keeping the house or current residence super clean. Lower your expectations of one another a bit.
- Remember your commitment to one another.
- Compliment one another.
- Find something positive in each day.
- Remind yourselves that this crisis isn't going to last forever.
- Ask for help from family and friends. Or find a support group.
- If you are dealing with grief, accept that you must each grieve on your own schedule.
- Don't keep your feelings bottled in. Share what is going on with your spouse.
- Take it one day at a time.
- Lower your stress level by exercising, eating healthy foods, drinking water, having some fun, and getting enough sleep.
- Be patient. It takes time to overcome the trauma of a crisis.
Tips:
- Although they can take a toll, traumatic events do NOT have to mean the end of your marriage.
- Be realistic about what you can do and can't do in the midst of your crisis situation.
What You Need:
- Commitment
- Understanding
- Sense of Humor
- Communication Skills
- Honesty
- Patience
- Being Realistic
