Are you concerned and suspicious that your spouse is having a cyber affair? If your spouse's behavior has changed in these ways, then there could be a problem with cyber sex.
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- Your spouse shows a lack of concern about your marriage relationship.
- Your spouse is not interested in doing things with you or in celebrating birthdays or holidays.
- You notice that there has been a major change in your spouse's sleep pattern by his/her staying up later or getting up earlier than normal.
- When you and your spouse are sexually intimate with one another, your mate shows very little enthusiasm having sex with you.
- Your spouse has lots of excuses, rationalizations, and expresses denial for obvious changes in his/her behavior.
- When confronted about being distant, lack of sex, too much time on the computer, and other concerns, your spouse blames you.
- Your spouse seems different and more moody.
- You easily catch your spouse telling lies.
- Your spouse starts to ignore his/her parental, household, or job related responsibilities.
- You notice that your spouse has changed the passwords on the computer.
- Your spouse moves the computer to a more isolated location in your home.
- Your spouse demands privacy and is defensive about time spent on the computer.
- The amount of time that your spouse spends on the computer is greatly increased.
- Your spouse doesn't want to talk about his/her computer usage.
- Cyber affairs can be a symptom of other problems in your marriage.
- Lack of communication, financial problems, relocation, and sexual dissatisfaction can be triggers to this behavior.
- Ask your spouse for honest communication to resolve the hurt and to rebuild trust.
- Don't let your spouse's attachment to pornography or cyber sex negatively impact your own self-image.
- Don't accept any blame or guilt for your spouse's decision to have a cyber affair.
What You Need
- Willingness to confront your spouse.
- Ability to fight fair.
- Belief in yourself.
- Time to heal.