Sure, you can have it all!
It is possible to have a high profile career, success, financial security, be a recognized community leader, own a beautiful home, raise children to be proud of, and have a happy marriage.
However, your marriage may suffer. As a super couple with the two of you involved in fulfilling careers, active in your community, and parenting your kids, you may find that your marriage will be a low priority.
Here's help in being a super couple and having a successful marriage at the same time.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: Time each day
Here's How:
- Even if you have long commutes, work long hours, volunteer in your community, and have kids to get to and from basketball games, gymnastic lessons, etc. put your relationship with your spouse high on your priority list. If you don't do this your marriage will weaken and eventually fall apart.
- Don't take your marriage for granted.
- Support one another. This includes listening to work and household chores concerns.
- Find quality childcare.
- Discuss your expectations and set priorities together.
- Make healthy choices for both yourselves and your children. This means taking care of yourselves, both emotionally and physically. Try to include regular sleep, a healthy diet, exercise, and having some fun and laughter in your lives.
- Brainstorm solutions. If a clean house is a priority, then perhaps hiring someone to help keep the house presentable should be in your budget. Don't be afraid to have the talk about difficult issues and situations.
- Be flexible. Develop the skill to juggle time schedules and activities. Don't let your marriage run on empty.
- Believe in yourselves and in your marriage.
- Get organized.
- Learn how to delegate.
- Strive for balance in your lives.
- Learn toleration.
- Make time for fun with one another. Schedule regular date nights with each other.
Tips:
- Make time for each other every day, even if it is only 15 minutes. Go out on a date with one another at least once a month. This is the get dressed up for one another type of evening.
- Accept that life will be chaotic at times. Accept that some things won't get done. Accept that now and then one of you may have to say "no" to doing something or being somewhere.
- Make sure that you are both sharing equally in doing household duties and that includes running errands and driving the kids to their activities. Children of super couples have responsibilities and chores, too.
What You Need:
- Family calendar
- Toleration
- Sense of Humor
- Flexibility
- Communication skills
