The Bottom Line
by Michele Weiner-Davis
Publisher: Simon & Schuster, 2003.
Written in three sections, for folks with low desire, for folks with high desire, and for couples to work at together, the author encourages couples to begin mutual care-taking. Recommended.
- Straight forward, honest advice
- May frustrate a spouse with an uncooperative mate
- "It is estimated that 1 out of 3 couples struggle with problems associated with low sexual desire."
- "One study found that 20% of married couples have sex less than 10 times a year!"
- "Complaints about low desire are the #1 problem brought to sex therapists."
- Don't bury your head in the sand. Ignoring the problem isn't healthy. You need to get help.
- Talk about what you need.
- Don't keep score. Stop the blame game. It's a couple problem that requires change from both of you.
- Don't wait to feel lusty.
- Men's testosterone, a primary hormone responsible for sexual desire, peaks at 7 to 8 in the morning.
- Hi octane partners, share feelings and focus on what turns your spouse on, not just your desires.
- Low libido partners, just do it. Frequent sex may help jumpstart your sexual desire.