Be able to put your spouse first in your life, before your parents, your children, your friends, your boss and coworkers. If you can't, should you really be married?
Express your deepest fears and wildest dreams-- and if you can't, either because you can't trust your spouse or would be embarassed, should you really be married to him/her?
Most importantly, remember how anger is like orange juice... When you squeeze an orange, juice comes out. Why? Because it was inside the orange to begin with. If someone's words or actions "squeeze" anger out of you, anger will pour out, just like juice from an orange. No one can "make" you angry, they simply remind you of the anger that you hold in your heart. Kaun-tao
Of the conflict
Of the issue
Of the bed
Try to see it your partners way before you say something you can't take back. Don't consider divorce as an option unless your life is at stake. Try to work through the parenting issues, the financial issues, the sex issues... don't let the easy way out be the only way out. Becky
