Questions and Solutions for Husbands
How to Stop Being a Maternal Gatekeeper
Gatekeeping Study Press Release
Ask yourself these questions to see if you fall into the category of a maternal gatekeeper.
Do you:
- Redo a task your husband just finished?
- Criticize the way your husband accomplished the task?
- Create unbending or unrealistic standards for him to meet?
- Demean or undermine his efforts at being an authority figure in your children's lives?
- Oversee the chores that your husband works on?
- Do all the organizing, delegating, planning, and scheduling in your home?
- Become reluctant to let go of some of your responsibilty for caring for your family?
- Need a great deal of validation of your identity as a mom, both from your husband and from outside your marriage?
- Believe in the traditional roles assigned to husbands and wives?
- View your husband as a helper when it comes to household chores and child-care responsibilities?
- Ask your husband for help and then give explicit directions on how to accomplish a task?
- Secretly feel thrilled when your husband shows some incompetence around the house or kids?
- Feel threatened or at a loss if your child gets hurt and runs to dad for comfort?
Maternal Gatekeepers
Questions and Solutions for Husbands
How to Stop Being a Maternal Gatekeeper
Gatekeeping Study Press Release
