Questions for Wives
Questions and Solutions for Husbands
Gatekeeping Study Press Release
Maternal gatekeeping is not malicious behavior. It stems from a belief that women are more suited to caring for children and that women are better nurturers.
If you believe you are a maternal gatekeeper, here are some suggestions for letting go of your maternal gatekeeping behavior:
- Quit hogging the baby and children.
- Don't expect your husband to do things exactly as you would do them.
- Accept that there are more ways than your way to accomplish a task.
- Lower your standards of housekeeping especially if they are unrealistic.
- Don't criticize what your husband accomplished.
- Never redo a task that your husband did.
- Don't ask your husband for help. Ask him to take on his share of the responsibility for running your family's home.
- Realize that you don't have to do all the organizing, delegating, planning, and scheduling in your home.
- If you find yourself feeling threatened by your husband's efficiency or the way he cares for your kids, ask yourself why you are having this feeling.
- If a baby or child is crying, don't immediately step in and take the child away from your husband.
- Accept Gloria Steinem's statement, "we need to know not only what women can do what men can do but also that men can do what women can do."