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"Mothers' Beliefs and Behaviors That Inhibit Greater Father Involvement in Family"
Allen, Sarah M. and Alan J. Hawkins. 1999.
Journal of Marriage and the Family 61(1):199-212.
Women may be inhibiting greater father involvement in family work
Family journal publishes first study to define and document "maternal gatekeeping"
PROVO, Utah (April 6, 1999) -- With dual-income families now the norm, why are many women still carrying the majority of the responsibility for housework and child-care? While fingers have pointed at men, new research at Brigham Young University looks at the other side how women may inhibit the collaborative efforts they are requesting.
The current issue of the Journal of Marriage and the Family includes the first study to define and empirically document "maternal gatekeeping." The study explores how women's beliefs and behaviors may actually be one of the potential factors inhibiting a collaborative effort between men and women in housework and child-care. The article is based on a sample of 622 dual-earner families.
"While many mothers in the work force believe they need more support in family work, most don't even realize their actions may be placing obstacles in the way. They, themselves, may be limiting the amount of their husbands' involvement," said Sarah Allen, author of the study and recent Brigham Young University graduate student.
Maternal gatekeeping is defined as having three dimensions: 1) mothers' reluctance to relinquish responsibility for family matters by setting rigid standards; 2) the need for external validation of one's mothering identity; and 3) traditional conceptions of family roles.
Included in these dimensions are the various ways wives manage, exclude or choose their husbands' levels and types of paternal participation in family work. According to the study, 20 to 25 percent of dual-earner wives may be classified as "gatekeepers."
It is also interesting to note that the conceptualized dimensions of maternal gatekeeping tend to be a "package deal"; mothers higher in one dimension were generally higher in the other two as well.
Standards and Responsibilities
Some women discourage their husbands' involvement by redoing tasks, criticizing, creating unbending standards or demeaning their efforts to protect authority in the home. This is most evident when wives act as household managers by organizing, delegating, planning, scheduling and overseeing the work done by husbands in order to maintain responsibility for the day-to-day aspects of family work. Their husbands, then, act as helpers by doing what is requested. But this pattern may also encourage fathers to wait until they are asked to help and to request explicit directions.
Maternal Identity Confirmation
Rather than issues of control and management, in this dimension of gatekeeping, it is common for a woman's self-identity to be tied to how well she thinks others view her homemaking and nurturing skills. Because of this belief, she is more likely to resist her husband's involvement since it would diminish her value.
Differentiated Family Roles
Differentiated family roles refer to roles for mothers and fathers that reflect a clear division of labor and distinct spheres of influence. Here, a mother who thinks family work is primarily for women may be hesitant to encourage paternal involvement and increase the likelihood she will monitor her husband's involvement.
As stated in the study, some women both cherish and resent being the primary care-giver, feel both relieved and displaced with paternal involvement, are both intentional and hesitant about negotiations for more collaborative sharing, and feel guilty and liberated with more involvement from men in family work. This ambivalence about increased paternal involvement serves to keep the gate to the domestic garden periodically swinging open and closed with gusts of wind invisible to fathers.
"This is a very complex subject filled with a variety of gender issues," said Alan Hawkins, second author of the study and director of the BYU Family Studies Center. "While the term has been loosely used in the field, no one has previously investigated maternal gatekeeping's many dimensions or adequately defined it. With more attention to these issues, perhaps more mothers will be able to achieve greater collaboration with their partners." Allen and Hawkins were research associates of the BYU Family Studies Center. Allen is one of the few graduate students to have her master's thesis published in a premier journal in the field.
BYU Family Studies Center
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