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THE MARRIAGE CONNECTION
Sheri and Bob Stritof
Marriage Guides at The Mining Co.
http://marriage.about.com
December 30, 1997
=== This Week's Features =======================
1) NEW FEATURE: New Year's Resolutions
2) QUOTE OF THE WEEK: Kelly J. Gilman
3) QUESTIONS FROM THE COMMUNITY: Long Distance Relationships
4) CHAT ROOM: Still available for your use!
5) IN THE NEWS: Arkansas divorce rate, quick marriage, and more
6) WEEKLY CHUCKLE: Zsa Zsa
=== Also In This Issue =========================
Anniversary Contest - Jim & Dot Stevenson now
are oldest!
Reminder
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We took some time off during the holidays, but here's a look at what's going on now at Marriage at the Mining Company:
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1. NEW FEATURE
New Year's Resolutions
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Resolutions are so often never kept, and that hurts self image - both individually and as a couple. This week's feature includes some hints on making resolutions that you can keep and that will enhance your marriage.
http://marriage.about.com/library/weekly/aa120797.htm
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2. QUOTE OF THE WEEK
from Kelly J. Gilman, posted on the USS Nimitz support board
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DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS TO OTHER PEOPLE! You don't hear about the couple that's been married for 15 years, he get's out, they adjust, and life goes on. BORRING! Wonderful...but not the topic of "Leeza!" :) It is scary, when after being married for a while, your friends start to divorce. Just hold onto each other a little tighter, and keep on going. I've been married for 6 years, and it's been great. Perfect no....but great, YES! You don't know what will happen when he get's out. It will be an adjustment you will make as a family. Think of all the changes you've ALREADY made TOGETHER. This is just another one. Talk, talk, talk...and you will be okay. Look at it as a positive, and exciting thing! (The sound of angels singing in the background) ...... People get divorced for alot of reasons....but there are many more reasons, why they stay together.
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3. QUESTIONS FROM THE COMMUNITY
Long Distance Relationships
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Question: I enjoyed reading your article about resolutions for marriages, but what do you do when your Sig Other is a trucker, who cannot get home without deadheading (running empty at his cost) 4-500 miles in & the same going back out?
I haven't seen him for 2 mos. now and we're about to break up. Other problems are involved too, but this one is the worst at the moment.
Our Reply: Long distance relationships are difficult. There are no real easy answers. We've known quite a few couples, however, who have dealt with the distance issue in some very creative ways.
We've heard about daily "care" packages (given out once a month), a midway rendezvous now and then, writing a love letter on a daily basis (then either mailed, or emailed, or just saved for when together).
The primary key to success in a LDR is communication. Keeping in touch, sharing feelings and letting one another know that the love, concern, passion, etc. remains strong.
Some couples have shared that being together can often create problems after being apart. Prior to reconnecting, it is super important that expectations be shared - will you go out alot (dining, dancing, shopping, hiking, fishing, whatever...) or will you stay home and snuggle alot - or a bit of both? Some spouses come home to a long list of things that need to be "done" or taken care of. For some that is ok, for others, it is a real problem.
Bottom line is the strong need to communicate. Take care of yourself, ok?
If you have questions or answers, please email us at
mailto:marriage.guide@about.com
(Names will not be included unless specifically requested.)
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4. CHAT ROOM
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The chat room is open 24 hours, seven days a week. Please feel free to meet with your friends and/or family members there. We'll try to be there on Mondays, from 5 pm to 6 pm (Pacific Time).
PLEASE NOTE: Last night we encountered "server busy" problems and could not access the site! We tried, honest!! Found out the tech folks were making some code changes... sigh!
http://marriage.about.com/mpchat.htm
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5. IN THE NEWS
Arkansas Divorce Rate, Quick Marriage, etc.
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High Divorce Rate in Arkansas
http://www.dallasnews.com/texas-southwest-nf/tsw53.htm
Community Marriage Policy being tried to curb rising divorce rate.
Costner wants to renew relationship
http://www.scmp.com/news/template/templates.idc?artid=19971230032206022&top=world&template=Default.htx&maxfieldsize=1395
Kathie Lee Gifford gives advice.
Really Short Marriage
http://www.scmp.com/news/template/templates.idc?artid=19971230032206028&top=world&template=Default.htx&maxfieldsize=427
Actress Robin Givens leaves husband on their wedding day.
Other news items can be found at
http://marriage.about.com/library/blnews.htm
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6. WEEKLY CHUCKLE
Zsa Zsa
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"A man in love is incomplete until he has
married. Then he's finished." Zsa Zsa Gabor
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Reminder: If there is something you are looking for in particular, let us know and we'll see what we can find on the net for you.
Anniversary Contest: Enter your date and location!
http://marriage.about.com/library/blanniv.htm
Thanks, as always, for visiting Marriage.
Sheri and Bob Stritof
Marriage Guides
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