Can Separation Save a Marriage?
Studies say Yes
Eight years and two weeks after their whirlwind courtship and marriage, Ted Turner and Jane Fonda have separated.
Some friends blame Turner's workaholism for the difficulties in the relationship. There is a difference between working to live and living to work. Research has shown that workaholism can have devastating effects on spouses and children. They have been to a marriage counselor and apparently are hoping to save their marriage.
"While we continue to be committed to the long-term success of our marriage," they said, "we find ourselves at a juncture where we must each take some personal time for ourselves."
Fonda & Turner
Wedding Anniversary:They were married on December 21st.
Number of Times Married:This is the third marriage for both.
Children: Turner has five children from previous marriages and Fonda has two children from previous marriages.
Some professionals say that if a couple doesn't spend time together they lose the connections that brought them together. If one spouse is a workaholic, the relationship experiences even less time together. The result is more stress and frustration.
Yet, we all need some personal space and time. The key is to negotiate this aspect of your marriage with one another so that feelings of being neglected or ignored don't appear.
Dr. Berit Ingersoll-Dayton, an associate professor of social work at the University of Michigan, and Ruth Campbell, a gerontological social worker at the Turner Clinic in Ann Arbor, recently conducted a study that was published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. It pointed out the importance of spending personal time away from one's partner. This is because having separate experiences and interests can make the time spent with a spouse more intense. Outside interests fulfill personal needs, increase a person's desire to spend more time with their spouse, and makes marriage partners more interesting to one another.