Many churches and encounter groups have evenings for married couples to share on their relationship. Some are called Spirals, some are called Love Circles or Follow-Up sessions. Regardless of their name, they are helpful in keeping a couple focused on their marriage. We also recommend that couples attend seminars and workshops with presentations about marriage enrichment.
This easy and fun exercise could be done in a group setting or as a couple, one to one.
Bring 25 things that reflect your marital relationship. All of them have to fit in a
reclosable storage bag together (1 bag 25 items in it). They can all be the same. An example would be 25 seeds for the seeds of love you have planted along the way. Or they can all be different.
Be prepared to share on why you put the items in the bag. It's not necessary
to share on each item, (though you can if you want). Look for the kind of pattern they may weave together.
Some suggestions:
Compass for heading in the right direction with one another.
Corn seeds reminiscent of a trip taken together.
Plastic wrap to cling together.
Lots of family pictures for memories.
A small puzzle showing the confusion in some relationships at times.
Noise poppers because many families are noisy ones.
A candle to symbolize the light of love in a marriage.
Candy representing the sweetness of a relationship.
A can of spice because every marriage needs some spice in it.
A bottle of glue because a marriage is two people sticking together.
Some matches to show that the spark of romance is still there.
Flowers because the marriage is still blooming.
A bottle of aspirin because every marriage can be a pain now and then.
A band aid to heal the hurts that a couple can cause one another.
Some Lego building blocks representing all that a couple has built together.
Insect repellent to guard against the bad stuff entering a marriage.
A cross representing the importance of faith for some couples.
A goblet because a strong marriage is a cause for celebration.
A safety pin showing how safe a couple feels being together.
A spoon because a couple often feeds one another emotionally.
A key to one's heart.
Some money because although we're not married for money, finances play an important role and life can be difficult without it.
A wad of string showing how we are tied together.
Toilet paper because life is fragile or because a couple often has to get to the bottom of things.
Slips of paper with values a couple wants to have in their lives.
Sheets of music since music often heals and speaks to our hearts.
A door knob if he knocked her up... See you can have fun with this too!
If you have any outlines or suggestions for sharing evenings, please let us know.