Going to the Store
WARNING! Biased articled written by Sheri...
No doubt about it. Men and women are different.
Just look at their brains. Women have better brains.
Why? It's because women have more connectors between the left and right brains
than men have. This means the feminine population views things from a much broader
and more open perspective than men do.
Take for instance an everyday activity such as shopping or going to the store.
When you need to purchase an item, how do you phrase it? Do you say, "I'm going to
the store" or do you say, "I'm going shopping"?
No difference, you say? Whoa! Yes...a BIG difference!
Men and women often approach this necessary chore totally different.
This dissimilar approach is lived out both in the activity itself and in the way
they verbalize it. How are they different? When I (a woman) say "I'm going to the
store", I don't mean I am literally going to "a" store. It means I'm going out
somewhere to find something I might need sometime. It means SHOPPING.
When Bob says, "Let's go to the store", he means, literally, "Let's go to the store."
Translated that means: GOING TO THE STORE.
He knows precisely what he wants.
He knows precisely what store carries it.
He knows precisely where in the store the item is located.
He drives directly to that particular store.
He walks directly to the aisle where the item is shelved.
He picks up that item, and walks directly to the cashier
where he pays for the item, and actually leaves.
He doesn't look for anything else and he doesn't look at anything else, and he drives home without stopping at
any other stores.
THIS IS AN ABSOLUTELY INCONCEIVABLE WAY TO LIVE!
It can also create relationship problems. We've learned after thirty three of marriage
to be very specific about this activity. In other words, when I'm going shopping,
I say "I'm going shopping," and I don't say "I'm going to the store." That gives
Bob the opportunity to say "No." The same holds for me. If he says he is going to
the store for a wrench, and he means he is going to the store, I, too, can exercise
my "No".
True, this is not a huge problem, but it can wear down one's patience.
Every relationship needs all the help it can get in smoothing out the rough parts.
Keep that in mind the next time you plan on heading out for the mall with husband in tow and you've said, "Honey, I'm just going to the store!"
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