Are you looking for a how-to manual to energize your sex life? Rabbi Shmuley Boteach has some suggestions for your marriage. Do you believe that sex is holy? Rabbi Shmuley Boteach does.

In his book, Kosher Sex, this Hasidic rabbi shares ideas on how to keep a marriage passionate and alive. Although rooted in Jewish tradition, these ideas are universal in their appeal.

Scandal isn't something you would expect from Rabbi Boteach, the runner up in the 1998 Times Preacher of the Year Award, and who currently is a director for Oxford's L'Chaim Society. Yet in some Jewish areas of New York, this book has been either banned from bookstores or it is sold in plain brown wrappers.

Looking at some of the contents can give you an idea of why he is stirring up so much publicity: Is Oral Sex Wrong? Is there a Kosher Kama Sutra? Married People and Masturbation. Does size matter?

He doesn't believe that sex is just for conceiving children. Rabbi Boteach points to Judaism as stating that sex is the holiest experience known to people. The bedroom, he writes, can be holier than a synagogue. He also says, based on Genesis 2, that Judaism believes that sex is the principal glue by which a man and a woman cease to be strangers with each other, by which a man and a woman become one flesh.

He has stated that if President Clinton had been having kosher sex within his marriage, the scandals of his past would not have happened. He says many men chase after women because they need renewal and new things. Kosher sex teaches that a man can do that through renewing himself through a deeper relationship with his wife.

One way to achieve this is through a period of sexual abstention. He suggests that couples refrain from the sexual act for up to 12 days a month to take a rest and relate to each other as friends. The other 18 days are then a monthly honeymoon where passion rules.

Admitting to lusting after his own wife, Debbie, after 11 years of marriage and six children, he says, Notice the Ten Commandments prohibit a man from lusting after his neighbor's wife. It offers no prohibition against lusting after your own wife.

Men have a very short sexual attention span, and quickly tire of an available body that provides no adventure and can be conquered without a chase. Abstinence provides a constant challenge whereby a husband lusts and hungers for his unavailable wife rather than chasing after his forbidden secretary. He will never tire of his wife's body, because for two weeks of each month she remains outside his grasp, ever elusive, beckoning him for more.

He is also a firm believer in waiting till marriage for sex. He believes that sexual innocence is the sexiest thing of all. Think about this: Why don't men want to marry prostitutes?

He also sent President Clinton a copy of this book.