Published by Volt Press, 2006.
Author Interviewed 100 Divorce Attorneys
After interviewing 100 leading divorce lawyers, author Wendy Jaffe put together this book that shares with you how to avoid major marriage problems, helps you identify nine key symptoms of divorce, and how to learn from your own past mistakes.The consensus of the attorneys was that nearly 2/3 of divorces are entirely avoidable. This book provides a new perspective into what makes a marriage work and why marriage matters.
The Nine Symptoms of Divorce
- 1. Sex
2. Unrealistic Expectations
3. Money
4. Communication
5. Control
6. Mental Challenges and Physical Addictions
7. Spouse clones, Steps and the Ex
8. Growing Apart
9. Lack of Commitment
Chapter Organization
With a mission to unlock the secrets of successful marriages, each chapter on one of the symptoms begins with quotes from noted divorce attorneys, identifies a cause of divorce, some relevant symptoms, and a series of questions for you to answer and reflect on.Quotes
"Nearly every lawyer I spoke to said that many of the people who came to them for a divorce could have saved their marriages if they had actively worked on the problems that plagued their marriages before they had gotten out of hand. JoAnn Reynolds, a Portland attorney who has practiced family law for more than twenty years said: "People don't go to marriage counselors until they are well on their way to seeing a divorce lawyer, and by that time it is too late because the unhappy spouse has already emotionally left the marriage."page 16
"Divorce has symptoms which, if left unchecked, will ruin your marriage. The key is to learn how to identify and then treat the symptoms. Doing nothing is only an option if you do not care whether or not your marriage works. This book will teach you how to recognize the syptoms that lead to divorce, and will identify the steps necessary to affect a cure."
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