Shedding New Light
There are many misconceptions about marriage as an institution that continually cloud the current discussions about traditional marriages from the past.Coontz has organized this book around myths and half-truths and sheds new light on parenting, love, gender roles, feminism, sexuality, privacy, and more. This book takes a critical look at how Americans long for a time that never was.
Fascinating Facts
She also includes many fascinating facts about marriage such as:- In the nineteenth century, the age of sexual consent in some states was nine or ten.
- Teenage pregnancy peaked in the often favored 1950s. Families of the 1950s were more diverse and less idyllic than many believe.
- Pioneer marriages did not last as long as modern day marriages.
- Over the past 50 years ties between grandparents and grandchildren have become stronger.
Chapters
The Way We Wish We Were: Defining the Family Crisis"Leave it to Beaver" and "Ozzie and Harriet": American Families in the 1950s
"My Mother Was a Saint": Individualism, Gender Myths, and the Problem of Love
We always Stood on Our Own Two Feet: Self-reliance and the American Family
Strong Families, the Foundation of a Virtuous Society: The Family and Civic Responsibility
A Man's Home Is His Castle: The Family and Outside Intervention
Bra-Burners and Family Bashers: Feminism, Working Women, Consumerism, and the Family
"First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes Mary with a Baby Carriage": Marriage, Sex, and Reproduction
Toxic Parents, Supermoms, and Absent Fathers: Putting Parenting in Perspective
Pregnant Girls, Wilding Boys, Crack Babies, and the Underclass: The Myth of Black Family Collapse
The Crisis Reconsidered
Epilogue: Inventing a New Tradition
Common Reactions to the Romanticization of Family and Marriage Life
Stephanie Coontz discusses guilt, anger, and a sense of betrayal as the common reactions that people have when they realize that the reality of their lives doesn't match the myths they have been led to believe. The cherished illusions of the so-called "normal", traditional marriage are just that - illusions. But they shouldn't be cherished.
