Asking for HelpDon't ask your spouse to help you around the house. That gives your spouse the idea that the household chores are your responsibility and not his.
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Not Knowing What You Want Done by Your SpouseDo you know what you want your spouse to do or are you expecting your mate to notice what needs to be done and then do it?
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Lack of CommunicationIt is important that you are specific in communicating your expectations about household maintenance and cleaning. Communication also involves listening to your spouse's household chore expectations.
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InflexibilityIs your way the only way to get a chore accomplished? Are you a gatekeeper?
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NaggingNagging only makes your spouse more resentful and defensive.
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No Confidence in Spouse's AbilitiesDo you double-check how your spouse cleaned the toilet or put away the laundry? Do you redo a task that your spouse just finished?
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Lack of AffirmationWhen was the last time you complimented your spouse on a job well done?
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