Sign of Apathy, Disillusionment, Uncaring, Insensitivity and MoreWhenever you or your spouse says "I don't care", it could be a sign of apathy or uncaring in your marriage. The phrase may also be a way of not facing into your own disillusionment in your marriage.
Saying "I don't care" shows a lack of concern and caring. The comment in itself comes across as thoughtless, insensitive, irresponsible, indifferent, unfeeling, and rude.
Saying "I don't care" is also a cop out. It's often used by people who don't want to take part in making a decision or who don't want to discuss a situation or topic. It's easier to say, "I don't care" and then blame your spouse if things don't work out well.
A Better ResponseYou probably really do care, but you just fall into the habit of saying "I don't care."
A better response than "I don't care" is to say something like, "I'm for anything but Italian for dinner" or "Any movie is okay with me as long as it isn't a tear jerker."
If your spouse keeps saying "I don't care", don't let him or her off the hook. Say, "Yes, you do care. Please give me your opinion."