1. People & Relationships
You can opt-out at any time. Please refer to our privacy policy for contact information.

Discuss in our forum

Milton and Joyce Brothers

By

The death of her husband of 39 years was an exceptionally difficult time for Dr. Joyce Brothers, the sincere, pragmatic, and compassionate media personality who touched many lives through her advice columns, books, and television and radio shows.
Fast Marriage Facts - Milton and Joyce
Met: 1946.
Married: July 4, 1949.
Marriage Ended: 1989, Milton's death.
First Marriage: Yes.

Did You Know?
When they were engaged, Joyce called Milton Rabbit and he called her Bunny or Bunnynose.

Born:

Milton Joseph Brothers: June 17, 1926 in Queens, New York.

Died:

Milton: At the age of 62, Milton died on January 9, 1989 in Fort Lee, New Jersey, from bladder cancer.
Joyce: "Milt was part of me, and if he was part of me, how could I be lonely? I cannot tell you how much this memory helped. I am not saying that I went from loneliness to happiness in a day, but from that time everything began to get a little bit better."
Source: Joyce Brothers. Widowed. 1992. pg. 134.
Joyce: "Milt and I had pledged ourselves to each other for better or worse, and on every single one of our wedding anniversaries he used to kiss me and say, 'I'm still waiting for the worse.' Well, the 'worse' came, of course. Worse? The worst! Death parted us. Nothing else could have."
Source: Joyce Brothers. Widowed. 1992. pg. 132.

Joyce: On May 13, 2013, at the age of 85, Dr. Joyce Brothers died at her home in Fort Lee, New Jersey.

How Joyce and Milton Met:

Milton and Joyce met in 1946 while she was vacationing with her parents and sister in the Catskills. Milton's summer job while a premed student at Cornell was driving tourists to Kenoza Lake.
Joyce: "I was in my bedroom when my sister ran up the stairs and said, 'I've just met the man you're going to marry. Get dressed and come down.' I did, and I knew instantly she was right."
Source: Jim Seymore. "Who Wears the Pants, Joyce or Milton Brothers? That's the $64,000 Question." People Magazine.. 4/25/1977.

Wedding Date:

Joyce and Milton were married on July 4, 1949.
Joyce: "And our honeymoon was blissful -- except for the last night, when we had our first fight. Milt had taken a long shower and used up all the hot water, leaving none for me. If I had known the term male chauvinist pig then, I certainly would have used it. We made up and promised each other we would never fight again. But of course we did -- all through our marriage. We squabbled over a hundred things ... None of our fights was serious. We boiled up and simmered down."
Source: Joyce Brothers. Widowed. 1992. pg. 36.

Children:

Milton and Joyce had one daughter.
  • Lisa Milton Brothers Arbisser: Born abt. 1955.

Occupations:

Joyce: Psychologist, author, advice columnist, actress, pioneer radio and television advice show host, $64,000 Question quiz show contestant.
Martin Weil: "Dr. Brothers seemed to stand out for her ability and willingness to offer advice in a concise and comprehensible form and for her relatively simple solutions to the problems brought before her."
Source: Martin Weil. "Dr. Joyce Brothers, 85; TV psychologist and columnist." WashingtonPost.com. 5/13/2013.

Milton: Internist, teacher at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, author, Navy corpsman in World War II.

Quotes About the Marriage of Joyce and Milton Brothers:

Joyce: "Marriages, like careers, need constant nurturing ... the secret of having it all is loving it all."
Source: IMDB.com

Joyce: "My husband and I have never considered divorce ... murder sometimes, but never divorce."
Source: Simran Khurana. "Funny Marriage Quotes." Quotations.about.com.

Joyce: "Marriage is not just a spiritual communion, it is also remembering to take out the trash."
Source: Steve Almasy. "TV pioneer, famed psychologist Joyce Brothers dies." CNN.com. 5/13/2013.

Joyce: "While being in love is certainly important, the passion that accompanies this feeling is the first to fade after a few years of marriage. Also, it's better to have realistic expectations regarding marriage than those that might be too high."
Source: Dr. Joyce Brothers. "How well informed are you about marriage?" SeattlePI.com. 8/26/2003.

Joyce: "Happily married couples are more likely to make major decisions together. Marriages in which husbands insist on making financial decisions and give wives less power in such matters more frequently end in divorce."
Source: Dr. Joyce Brothers. "How much do you know about marriage?" SeattlePI.com. 11/28/2003.

Joyce: "The image your husband carries of you in his heart and his mind's eye is that of the young woman he fell in love with ten, thirty, fifty years ago. Despite the extra pudge around your middle, the little droop here and sag there, he still sees you the way you looked when he fell in love. There are two reasons for this: first, because it has been a gradual change, and second, because he will not allow himself to be conscious of the change. His inner censor helps him overlook the droopy bosom and the second chin. No wonder they say love is blind."
Source: Joyce Brothers. Widowed. 1992. pgs. 137-138.

Jim Seymore: "So [Joyce] began an intensive six-week cram with books, films, magazines and encyclopedias. Less than a year later Joyce had won $134,000, and Milton was bankrolled in a Park Avenue practice."
Source: Jim Seymore. "Who Wears the Pants, Joyce or Milton Brothers? That's the $64,000 Question." People Magazine.. 4/25/1977.

Elsewhere on the Web

©2014 About.com. All rights reserved.