Unexpected gifts are not the only way to help your spouse feel valued, but it is something to try. Don't wait until a birthday, holiday, or anniversary to give a gift or say thank you. Your marriage license is not a permit to quit showing your appreciation and love to your spouse.
- Don't think that dropping a gift off now and then is all you have to do. Remember to say "thank you" often. Hearing the words "thank you" means a great deal to many individuals.
- If your spouse wonders why you gave the unexpected gift, you don't have to always give a reason. Saying something like "just because" or "because I care" helps prevent the attitude that gifts are only given when your spouse does something for you.
- Don't expect to give or receive sex as a reward for doing something for your spouse or for making a change in your life.