Comments about Smoking and Marriage

From Readers and Forum Members

It invites thoughts of having to care for a sick partner and becoming an early widow/widower, and that's before you think about consequences for any children involved. Smoking, as much as alcoholism or drug addiction, is a truly selfish act.

It puts the minor pleasure of a "drag" above one's family. They used to have a series of anti-smoking ads where people who were dying of lung cancer had to write letters apologizing to their families for leaving them so soon.

I think that really shows that, to the smoker, Marlborough is more important than marriage and Kools are more important than kids."

Finally one day I saw myself on a video camera cigarette in hand...talking to my baby niece and nephew.

I was disgusted at seeing that and quit the next morning. No regrets....and dh was so thrilled.

I never smoked around him...he hated it. Gained a couple of pounds...but long term was sooo worth it."

He makes me cry. He makes me not want to be around him anymore. I finally told him that he knew that I was a smoker when we got married and that he made the choice to marry me and if he didn't want to be around me any longer then, divorce me.

I know that smoking is not good for anyone, but I have to be the one to quit. The more he nags, the more I smoke.

Both of his parents smoked as well. His mom just died back in March and his dad is going through chemo for lung cancer. I know that he is scared and worried for me."

Then once we got married and had to budget a lot more carefully, I started seeing just how much was going to his smokes. It's not something I tell him he must quit, but I do point out the money that goes to it.

The thing I hate is how he uses me as an excuse for him to smoke. He says I stress him out and I make him smoke more. I do worry about his health. And I don't like the smell of the smoke anymore or the taste in his mouth when he kisses me right after smoking.

Another thing that bothers me about it, is how much time it takes away from the time he could be spending with us as a family. Not that 5 minutes is a long time itself, but when it's 5 minutes because he's stressed, then 5 minutes later after that break, then 5 minutes after he snacks, then another 5 minutes after he eats, then another 5 minutes after he goes to the bathroom. It gets pretty sad for me to see him doing it so often."