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Definition: Mature love is the type of love you see in long-term marriages. When you are together because you want to be together and not because you need to be with one another, you have a mature love.

Signs of mature love include acceptance, emotional support, commitment, calmness, respect, caring, kindness, friendship, and consideration.

"Love is a moment and a lifetime. It is looking at him across a room and feeling that if I don't spend the rest of my life with him, I'll have missed the boat. Love is working together, laughing together, growing together. It is respect for each other and the people each cares about, however difficult it is sometimes to like his kinfolk or his friends. Love is wanting to shout from the rooftops the successes, little and big of one another. Love is wanting to wipe away the tears when failure comes. Love is liking the feel of each other. It is wanting to have children together because they are the exclamation point of love. Love is laughter, especially in the middle of a quarrel."
Source: Liz Carpenter. Getting Better All the Time.

Scientific research proves that the brain activity of couples in mature relationships is very similar to the brain activity of those newly in love. Love can and does last!

Also Known As: Real love, true love, one and only, love of my life, beloved

Examples: John Gottman: "Someone else's love story is never going to be yours. True love is woven out of honoring and understanding each other's unique gifts, vulnerabilities, and eccentricities." Source: The Gottman Institute Facebook Page. 7/2013.

Shauna Springer: "What feels a lot like love in the cocaine-rush phase does not compare to the love that couples may enjoy in the final phase of an exceptional marriage. If you doubt that this is true, consider the difference between the giddy feelings of being in love with someone you've known for a short time and the feelings of love you would have for someone who has been your journeying partner for the past 60 years of your life—the person who has been by your side through thick and thin, who has believed in you and invested in you."
Source: Shauna Springer, Ph.D. "Soul Mates Do Exist - Just not in the way we usually think..." PsychologyToday.com. 7/28/2012.

"Kathy Freston, author of The One: Finding Soul Mate Love and Making It Last, says the clearest sign you're in the right relationship is that 'you like who you're becoming when you're with this person.' So in the end, it's all about finding your best self, not losing yourself in another. About finding someone you like yourself with, not someone to save you from yourself."
Source: Arianna Huffington. On Becoming Fearless ... in Love, Work, and Life. 2006. pg. 53.

 

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