Runaway Bride (1999)

Commitment-shy folks may find out why they run from the altar ... they may not know themselves yet.

Interesting marriage proposal -- Maggie: Look, I guarantee that we'll have tough times. And I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us will want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine I'll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart, you're the only one for me.

Know Thy Self -- This is similar to an old classic, It Had to Be You (1947) with Ginger Rogers and Cornel Wilde.

When Ike Graham (Richard Gere) writes a column about Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts), she is outraged and he gets fired. Looking for a way to redeem his reputation, Graham travels to the small town where Carpenter lives to find out why she has bolted from three weddings. As he learns about her past, Maggie learns about herself.

That's where the message for engaged couples can be found in this movie. If a couple wants a long term, successful marriage, it is critical that they first know themselves.

I thought the proposal scenes (both the "what if" and the "real" proposals) were very touching. As Maggie says, "That works..."