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Things We Wish We Had Known as Newlyweds

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Photo © Sheri Stritof

Newlyweds Bob and Sheri Stritof in 1964.

Photo © Sheri Stritof

When we were first married, like many newlyweds, we thought we knew it all. In reality, we had a lot to learn about how to build a successful marriage!

Here are things we wish we had known as newlyweds.

  • Fight Fair. It is okay to argue with one another as long as you fight fair. Pick your battles. What you argued about today may seem so very important but chances are you won't remember it a few years from now.
  • Date One Another. Although staying home and watching a movie or enjoying some quiet time together is important, getting out of the house and having a date with one another is one of the keys to having a successful marriage.
  • Talk to One Another. Your spouse is not a mind reader. Don't jump to conclusions. Share what you want and what you don't want and what you like and what you don't like. Share your thoughts and feelings when the two of you have decisions to make.
  • Have Fun and Enjoy One Another. This seems like a given, but newlyweds often put work and making money on a higher priority than having fun. Don't wait to have fun. You can have fun without spending a lot of money.
  • Your Jobs Can Hurt Your Marriage. Yes, being successful in your careeers and earning enough money to keep the roof over your heads is important. However, work is not the most important thing in life. Don't let your jobs interfere with your marriage.
  • Let Go of Past Hurts. You will make mistakes. Your spouse will make mistakes. You will both say things you don't really mean. You both need to forgive and to be forgiven.
  • Draw the Line With Your In-Laws. Set boundaries with your in-laws right away. If you don't, problems with your respective families will continue throughout your marriage.

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