"Happily Married with Kids" shows how to overcome the stress of having a new baby in your lives, how to have fun with your spouse in spite of not having a babysitter, and how to preserve your marital intimacy and still be great parents.
The author quotes research that found that after having a baby, sixty-seven percent of new parents are having: less sex
Having unrealistic expectations is the primary reason couples experience less happiness and intimacy in their marriages after having a baby.
In discussing expectations versus realities, Lindquist helps new parents understand the importance of facing these issues head on and to not try and sweep them under the rug.
There's no doubt about it. A newborn in your lives will put a strain on your marriage as you try to adjust to subsequent changes in your priorities and lifestyle. But the good news is that children don't kill marriages. Lack of communication is the true culprit.
How tos Avoid the real parent trap of exhaustion and disruption
Manage conflicts and improve communication
Stay best friends with your spouse
Balance work and home
Enjoy your kids - and each other - at every age
Revive your sex life
Find humor in everyday difficulties
Make time for both yourselves individually and your marriage
Potential Areas of Conflict
Time for self and together
Lack of sleep
Realistically, these areas are what cause the most conflict in any marriage - whether there are children or not. Having a new baby in the house can bring any unresolved issues in these areas to the surface.