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Silda Wall and Eliot Spitzer

Divorce Final in February 2014

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Eliot Spitzer and Silda Wall Spitzer in New York City on March 10, 2008. Eliot Spitzer was delivering an apology to his family after his reported links to a prostitution ring.

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Eliot Spitzer and Silda Wall Spitzer in New York City on December 1, 2007.

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The troubled marriage of Silda Wall Spitzer and her husband Eliot  finally ended in December 2013. Divorce papers were filed in January 2014 with the divorce finalized in February 2014. The couple managed to stay together years after they dealt with the personal and professional consequences of his arrangement to meet a high-priced prostitute at a Washington D.C. hotel in February 2008. Eliot Spitzer could have faced charges of tax fraud and money laundering but criminal charges were not brought against him.

Here is information about the marriage of Silda Wall Spitzer and Eliot Spitzer.

Fast Marriage Facts -Eliot and Silda
Met: Third year of law school.
Married: October 17, 1987.
Scandal: 2008.
Separated: December 2013.
Divorce Filed: January 2014.
Divorce Final: February 2014.
First Marriage: No.
Did You Know?
Silda insisted that Eliot receive marriage counseling and therapy.

News Updates:

1/15/2014: Nearly six years after the infidelity scandal hit the news, divorce papers were filed by Silda Wall and Eliot Spitzer on January 14, 2014.  

12/25/2013: According to an announcement released jointly by Silda Wall and Eliot Spitzer, their marriage "has come to an end." Read More

9/10/2013: Eliot Spitzer lost his bid for New York City Comptroller in the September 2013 Democratic primary.

7/08/2013: Eliot Spitzer took the plunge and announced he will run for the office of comptroller for New York City. More info ...

3/10/2013: Five years after the prostitution scandal put his marriage and life in crisis, Eliot Spitzer reflected on his past decisions.

Eliot Spitzer: “I said it then; I’ve said it since. The decision was the right one, in terms of what I felt was best for the state, for me. I just don’t look back at it ... I try to focus not on would’ve, could’ve, should’ve, although one does that to reflect and try to learn. But it’s more useful to look forward and figure out what next and how do you contribute and how do you do something useful.”
Source: Joseph Spector. "Five years later, Eliot Spitzer says resignation was right decision." PoughkeepsieJournal.com. 3/10/2013.

 

Born:

Eliot Spitzer: June 10, 1959 in the Bronx, New York.

Silda Alice Wall: December 30, 1957. She was raised in Concord, North Carolina.

How Silda and Eliot Met:

According to biographer Brooke A. Masters, Eliot and Silda met in January during Eliot's third year of law school at Harvard Law School at his condo near Mount Snow in Vermont. Silda thought he was a burglar.

Wedding Date:

Eliot and Silda were married on October 17, 1987 in a civil ceremony performed by U.S. district judge Robert Sweet at the Central Park Boathouse in New York City.
Source: Brooke A. Masters, Spoiling for a Fight: The Rise of Eliot Spitzer, page 33.

 

Children:

Eliot and Silda have three daughters. They try to take an annual family ski vacation in Colorado.

  • Elyssa Spitzer: Born in 1989.
  • Sarabeth Spitzer: Born in 1992.
  • Jenna Spitzer: Born abt. 1990.

 

Occupations:

Eliot: Political science professor, political commentator, former governor of New York, former New York State attorney general, private attorney.

Silda: Co-vice chair of the Urban Green Council, works with NewWorld Capital on environmental initiatives, corporate attorney, artist, founder and chair of Generation On.

 

Previous Marriages:

Silda was previously married for 29 days in 1982 to Peter Stamos.

Residences:

Eliot and Silda have an apartment in Manhattan and a country home in Gallatin in upstate New York.

Quotes About the Marriage of Silda and Eliot Spitzer:

Eliot on why his marriage survived the scandal: “An affair begins to connote an emotional relationship. If I had an affair, I’d still be governor, but I might not be married. In the grand scheme of things, I’m glad I am where I am.”
Source: Peter Elkind. Client 9: The Rise and Fall of Eliot Spitzer. 2010. pg. 291.

Sheelah Kolhatkar: "At his wife Silda's insistence, he [Eliot Spitzer] has undergone marriage counseling and therapy."
Source: Shellah Kolhatkar. "Eliot Spitzer's Mission Impossible." Time.com. 3/04/2010.

Eliot: "I don't know if you can ever mend something like this, in the sense of repair the canvas so that you never see the tear in the fabric," he said. "I'm incredibly lucky to be with a woman who is willing to deal with that tear in the fabric and keep moving forward." Asked why he didn't simply have an affair, he said, "I know this is parsing it very thin, but the emotional component would have in some ways been a worse violation." In other words, he might still be governor, but he probably wouldn't be married." Source: Sheelah Kolhatkar. "Eliot Spitzer's Mission Impossible." Time.com. 3/4/2010.

 

 

Eliot's public apology with Silda by his side: "I have acted in a way that violated the obligations to my family and that violates my —- or any —- sense of right and wrong. I apologize first, and most importantly, to my family. I apologize to the public, to whom I promised better. I do not believe that politics in the long run is about individuals. It is about ideas, the public good and doing what is best for the State of New York. But I have disappointed and failed to live up to the standard that I expected of myself. I must now dedicate some time to regain the trust of my family."
Source: Sewell Chan. "I Apologize to the Public." NYTimes.com. 3/10/2008.

Verena Dobnik, Michael Gormley: "Gov. Eliot Spitzer resigned in disgrace Wednesday after getting caught in a prostitution scandal that shattered his corruption-fighting, straight-arrow image, saying: "I cannot allow my private failings to disrupt the people's work ... Over the course of my public life, I've insisted, I think correctly, that people regardless of their position or power take responsibility for their conduct. I can and will ask no less of myself," Spitzer said at a Manhattan news conference with his wife, Silda, at his side.
Source: Verena Dobnik, Michael Gormley. "NY Gov. Spitzer Resigns Amid Sex Scandal." SFGate.com. 3/10/2008.

Silda about being a SAHM: "I felt very conflicted and emotional about leaving my job. It was not something I wanted to do, but I have never once doubted that it was the right decision for us. You don't want to give up your dreams, but you also have to confront the reality of your life. Ultimately, it was more important for me to have my family work."
Source: Karen Matthews. "Charmed life appears over for New York's first lady." SFGate.com. 3/11/2008.

Eliot about Silda's influence on him: “At the end of every day, there’s the inevitable recounting of what I was doing and where we’re heading on different issues. She pushes me to defend my views where we disagree. If I can’t convince her, I know my thinking needs work ... I rely on her very much as someone to talk to in order to resolve a tough issue. What length of sentence to ask for, how severe a fine should be. They come down to questions of what is just and fair.”
Source: Eric Konigsberg. "Her Next Job: First Lady of New York." NYTimes.com. 11/10/2006.

 

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