1. Dating & Relationships
You can opt-out at any time. Please refer to our privacy policy for contact information.

Discuss in our forum

Premarriage Questions List

Make Sure The Two of You Discuss These Questions

By

Man proposing to girlfiend outdoors
Cavan Images/Iconica/Getty Images
The success or failure of your marriage relationship depends on how well you handle a number of personal issues. Review these questions with your partner.

Relationship Goals & Personal Habits
  • Why are we getting married?
  • What do we as a couple want out of life?
  • Do you think our relationship will change after we are married?
  • What do you think we'll be doing in thirty or forty years?
  • How often do you drink?
  • Have you ever hit someone?
  • Do you have a criminal record?
  • How would you describe yourself?
  • How do you think I see you?
  • Do you think it is important to know one another's physical and mental health histories?
  • Will you clean the toilet?
  • How are we going to divide up the household chores?
  • Does religion play an important part in your life?
  • Do you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage?
  • What is your image of God?


    Finances
  • Can we talk about money?
  • Are you a saver or spender when it comes to money?
  • How much do we owe in debts and what are our assets?
  • Do you want to have a budget?
  • Where does our money go?
  • Should we have a joint checking account or separate accounts or both?
  • Who is going to be responsible for making sure that bills are paid on time?
  • Do you consider going to the movies and having a vacation every year a necessity or a luxury?
  • What are our financial goals?
  • Do you have any outstanding fines or debts?
  • What are our future plans for purchasing a home?
  • Do we both know where our important financial documents are located?


    Family
  • Do you want to have children?
  • Do we want to have children?
  • If we decide we do, how many children do you want to have?
  • How long should we be married before having children?
  • What kind of parent do you think you will be?
  • What is your parenting philosophy?
  • Will one of us stay home after we have children?
  • What type of birth control should we use if we want to postpone or prevent parenthood?
  • How do you feel about adoption?
  • Do you have any children already?
  • What was your childhood like?
  • Was your family an affectionate one?
  • Do you think we will have problems with your family during the holidays?
  • What values do you want to bring from your family into our marriage?
  • What do you like and dislike about your family?
  • What do you like and dislike about my family?
  • What do you like and dislike about your parents' marriage?
  • What do you like and dislike about my parents' marriage?
  • How much time will we spend with our in-laws?


    Sex & Intimacy
  • Can we talk about sex?
  • Should we talk about sex?
  • Are you comfortable discussing your sexual likes and dislikes?
  • What are your expectations of our sexual relationship?
  • Am I a jealous person?
  • Do I have trust issues or feel insecure?
  • How important is affirmation to me?
  • Do I handle compliments well?
  • What is your love language?
  • Do you think we listen to one another well?
  • Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?
  • How do you want to spend our days off?
  • What are your expectations about how we will spend our free time?
  • Do you believe that we should be doing everything together?
  • Can we each pursue our own interests?
  • Do you need time alone?
  • How would you feel if I want a night out with my friends now and then?
  • How will we make sure we have quality time together?


    Conflict & Communication
  • How will we make decisions together?
  • Are we both willing to face into difficult areas or do we try to avoid conflict?
  • Do you think we have problems in our relationship that we need to deal with before our wedding?
  • Do we handle conflict well?
  • How are we different?
  • Do you think our differences will create problems in our marriage?
  • Do you expect or want me to change?
  • Can we both forgive?
  • Are we both willing to work on our communication skills and to share intimately with each other?
Related Video
Organize a Wedding Guest List Spreadsheet

©2014 About.com. All rights reserved.