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You can't make someone else to do something. You can't force the issue of counseling. You need to accept your wife's "no."Forcing her to have a relationship with you because you went on a hunger strike is just like hitting her. You said previously you don't want to put your loved ones in pain, but that is exactly what you are doing.
Making such demands as you have are a sure way to end your marriage. We think this is a horrid decision, M.
Please reconsider going on a hunger strike and making these demands. Talk with your counselor again, okay?
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