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Leaving After 24 Years

Leaving After 24 Years

By Sheri & Bob Stritof, About.com

After living in an unhappy marriage for 24 years, V. has feelings for someone else, but her husband is ill.

Question

My husband has not even touched me for 24years???? When he told me to get out of his bed. There was no argument, no reason given.

I had been one of a large family and never slept on my own before marriage. I found I was afraid to do so. Keeping a light on all night for a year or so.

I tried everything from arguing, tempting, even begging for his love, I am ashamed to say. He ignored everything I did. There was no other woman or man involved nor has there been.

I loved him and wanted only him, so slowly but surely I died inside. My problem is I STILL need sex and satisfy myself out of pure frustration. I even now dread going to bed in my lonely bed.

Eight years ago my husband was taken sick and had a pacemaker.

Last year a very dear friend of mine passed away and since then I have been in daily touch with her husband whom I have known for many years. We have grown close and I want to take it further, but he lives in another country.

The dilemma I find myself in is that after all these years, someone is telling me he loves me .... how can I now leave my sick husband?

Should I show him any loyalty after what he as put me through? I would value your opinion. Thank you.

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