Question
I was unhappy with my wife's not cleaning, responsibility taking, etc. After 15 years of (not every day) arguing, she has left and now I see the unimportance of what I was fussing about.The main reason she left is because during some of those arguments I pushed her. Even though not into anything it was still a form of abuse and I have apologized greatly and admitted I was wrong.
My question is what can I do to make her feel comfortable about coming back? I've supported her financially so that she would come for that reason but now she wants almost full custody of our 2 kids and $1400 a month which makes her live comfortable without job while she goes to school.
Because of the house payment, etc., I'm planning on giving her $1000 a month to give her time to see I've changed. Also I told her that it's her fair share because she put time into the family and house so it won't be a controlling type deal.
I love her more than I knew but she let me know through a counselor that she won't go back to that. She feels out of love with me because I broke her heart when I pushed her.
Any suggestions appreciated. Thanks.
