Answer
To be blunt, you blew it. To regain the trust of your wife will take time. This isn't something you can control, especially with how much money you won't or will give her if you two divorce.Living up to your commitments to her and to your kids financially, and seeking counseling on your own to deal with your anger management issues, would both be ways of showing your sincerity in changing.
But the ball is in her court, and the more you pressure her to return to you, the more you try to control your relationship with her, and the more you attempt any form of manipulation to get her back with you, the more she will probably want to stay away from you.
Proceed to the next question.
