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We need some direction!We are two adults in our mid forties who found a "second chance". J. and I have been dating for 2 years. We have decided that we would like to spend the rest of our lives together, however . . . we both have children in college and getting married would ruin our chances of financial aid.
Looking to future, having dealt with our older parents issues with respect to medical benefits and prescription plans, we see that marriage is definitely a detriment into retirement.
Now for the question. We both value marriage - we were each married for roughly 20 years the first time. We have been apart from our respective spouses 5 - 6 years. We would like to have a meaningful ceremony to become married in the eyes of God (not the state) and to make that special commitment before moving in together.
Do you have any suggestions? Would clergy be likely to perform such a ceremony?
We both "lost our church's in the divorce". Why might you ask have we not found a new church? J. started his own business a year before his divorce and has struggled with the sluggish economy, and I have been going to school full time in addition to working full time for the past two years to attain the bachelor's degree I should have gotten years ago.
Where can we turn for advice and direction. We have been running two households for far too long and would like to move in together after J.'s son graduates high school in June.
