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Living in the Moment

The Importance of Now for Your Marriage

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Do you want to fight less with your spouse? Do you want to feel less defensive? According to Jay Dixit in Psychology Today, if you live in the moment, if you are mindful, you will have a more "satisfying relationship" and you will fight less and feel less defensive in your marriage.

So how can you be more mindful? How can you enjoy present moments both with those you love and moments of calm and quietness when you are alone?

In the article, "The Art of Now: Six Steps to Living in the Moment", Jay writes, "You can become mindful at any moment just by paying attention to your immediate experience. You can do it right now. What's happening this instant? Think of yourself as an eternal witness, and just observe the moment. What do you see, hear, smell? It doesn't matter how it feels -— pleasant or unpleasant, good or bad -— you roll with it because it's what's present; you're not judging it. And if you notice your mind wandering, bring yourself back. Just say to yourself, 'Now. Now. Now.'"

Jay's six steps are:

  • Savor
  • Breathe
  • Flow
  • Accept
  • Engage
  • Pay Attention

Being mindful and living in the moment doesn't take more time. It takes a decision.

Quotes About Living in the Moment

"The only way to be happy, is to teach yourself how." ~Leo Widrich
Source: Leo Widrich. "Slowing Down. Leostartsup.com. 2012.

"With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

"The other day a man asked me what I thought was the best time of life. "Why," I answered without a thought, "now." ~David Grayson

"The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness." ~Abraham Maslow

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