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It's Okay if You've Talked About Valentine's Day Expectations!

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Did you skip Valentine's Day?

You're not alone if you did.There are mixed opinions about Valentine's Day.

    Some think it is over commercialized and puts too much pressure on people buying cards, flowers, candy, expensive dinners, etc.

    Others say it is a lovely holiday to remind one another of the love that is felt between two people.

An Associated Press article written by Carolyn Thompson, mentions a couple who had been married for 80 years, and who had not ever celebrated Valentine's Day. Paul and Mary Onesi of Niagra Falls, N.Y. said their relationship is "more sensible than sentimental". Paul and Mary were married in 1917 when she was only 13 years old. They had six children and lived to see five of their children celebrate their 50th wedding anniversaries.

A comment from one of our readers:

    Alright..start getting ready to burn me at the cross, but as I'm sitting here, I've decided I don't like Valentine's Day. Why do we need a specific day to show the ones we love that we love them? And what about the people who can't afford to buy or do something today? Or don't have a special someone in their life..valentine's day must make them feel terrible. I don't want my hubby to come home with a gift for me today just because it's Valentine's Day and he feels like he HAS to. I love it, and him, more when he does those things "just because". Last month he bought me a scroll saw..just because. My all time favorite thing from him was a bunch of thistles (which I love and collect) from a field near where he worked. The thought of him stopping there after working all day, getting out on a busy road and picking those very thorny, very prickly thistles for me..just because..makes me fall in love all over again! Nah..I don't want a Valentine's day present..make mine a "just because" present.

Not making a big deal about Valentine's Day is okay if the two of you have shared your expectations about the holiday. Assuming that your spouse won't care if you skip the day is not a good idea.

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