When and How I Learned My Spouse Was Unfaithful
My story is a story of broken trust time and time again. As a Christian, marriage to me was something that was a lifelong relationship between husband and wife.
When we were engaged to be married my wife had her first affair and broke the engagement. After about three months she came back and wanted to work things out.
While married in 2005 she had a one night stand with her chiropractor while I was in the hospital recovering from surgery.
Here I am today 2010 and learned of my wife 3rd affair in November of 2009. This time the pain was to great and I decided to end the marriage after 12 years.
How I Coped
Our marriage did not survive this latest and last affair. My wife now lives with her lover "Frank" and it's been about two months since she has moved out to be with him.
It has been really hard knowing my wife is with another man and when she left saying things like "I'm the happiest I have ever been" and "I don't love you anymore."
I still cry in the evenings, I still feel sad and lonely and dealing with the anger of my wife living, sleeping with another man.
However, I am going to counseling, joined a support group, and slowly healing myself and have said that I will survive this and that I will go through the entire grieving process because when I come out the other side, I will be a better, stronger man.
I won't sugar coat anything! It's hard, so very hard to deal with a spouse who has had an affair. Live day by day and rely on your family and close friends for support.
Advice
- Leave them! Just Leave Them!
- You are better and deserve so much more.
- Know that it wasn't your fault.
- Love Yourself.
