From the article: Manipulation in Marriage
Manipulation in marriage is very damaging. If you've ever felt manipulated by your spouse, how did you handle the manipulation? What specifically did you do? How did your spouse manipulate you? Share Your Experiences
He Was the Best!
- My ex should have gotten an Academy Award for manipulation. After 33 yrs., I finally saw through everything & a friend, a Psychologist, told me outright to "get out". He's started to withhold sex soon after marriage, constantly blamed me for everything & anything that went wrong. If we planned a project together, soon after it was my idea, he would then deny really wanting to do it, etc. etc. I should have gotten out sooner than later, but I didn't want our child hurt by what would have become "manipulation" of her!
- —Guest Goldy55
Yes
- My husband is a very big manipulater. I thought I was the only one who gets the silent treatment. Whenever we have a argument and I want to have a discussion and talk. He turns the whole conversation into everything is my fault. So we do not have good communication in my marriage.
- —Guest Nicole
I'm Going To Lose You
- Every time I try to have a talk about some issue in our marriage, my wife starts crying and saying I am going to leave her or that I don't love her anymore. Once I try to console her, she "forgets" about everything that I have said to that point and none of my problems/issues are dealt with. This happens every time I try to discuss something about our relationship. The next time she tries this, I am planning to tell her that "yes I am going to leave you unless we address my issues."
- —Guest Mr Wayne
Yes
- Before we had our first child, my wife would cop an attitude with me whenever I would want to go and hang out with my best friend. Now, she uses my love for my daughter against me whenever it benefits her.
- —Guest Bernard
Yes
- My husband does not like people knowing his personal details to the point that we are not able to tell anyone that he has no job. I have an awkward relationship with his brother and he goes to tell him intimate things about our relationship. I get angry, then he gets angry that I am angry and we are now going to spend the rest of the night in argument.
- —Guest sarah
Re: It Works!
- Whenever my mate starts to try to manipulate me – I make it so uncomfortable with my push-back that he finally leaves me alone. I am normally a cheerful, happy person and this sudden switch catches him by surprise – so he does not do that as much as he did when we first got married (many, many years ago.) I hate to say it – but it is like conditioning your pet. Bad behavior = bad responses. It works. Manipulator hate push-backs. They are used to getting their way. ** Just remember to be Mostly a cheerful, happy person - or it won't work!
- —Guest Anita
Yes
- Yes, I have been manipulated in thru the whole relationship. Intimidated that I wont be forgiven if I get caught cheating or sneaking out. Don't matter if it is with friends. I can't have friends because he feels disrespected.
- —Guest Mirian
Silent Treatment
- When my wife doesn't get her way or what she wants, she gives me the silent treatment until I finally give in. It's been going on for years and I don't think she will ever change.
- —Guest Henry
